My daughter and I recently attended a sweet baby shower celebrating a baby girl and we returned home with a single gold balloon. I put a loop in the string, instructed my daughter to hold onto it with all of her fingers, and told her several times if she let go, the balloon would fly away and we wouldn't be able to get it back. We arrived home, I held onto the balloon as we got out of the car, and then I looped it around my daughter's hand and let go. So far so good.
It took less than 3 steps towards the front door for my daughter to let go, and watch in devastation as her balloon rose freely into the sky. She immediately burst into tears, saying she "forgot to hold onto it" and a tiny piece of my mommy heart broke. She had done the thing we had guarded so carefully against; she had let go of her balloon. I had let go too, and the worst had happened. Thoughts immediately started going through my mind. "I shouldn't have let go," and "I could have spared her this disappointment."
Some days as Moms, we have an "A-ha!" moment. That instant when we see something in our child that reveals their deep need or their strong fear.
I don't talk about our son as often as I talk about our girls. For one, he is more private, and I respect that. And two, well, he is in the middle. He is easy-going, sweet as can be (no really, I have never met a sweeter boy), hard working, loyal, thoughtful, eager to please... seriously a delightful 12 year old. He is also brilliant, literal, and very black and white. He can talk your ear off, and it's usually to analyze something that he has seen, done or heard. But he loves to be on his own, quiet and lost in his thoughts, toys or task. He loves the Lord and all things doctrine, and loves his sisters practically and sweetly. I tell you all this to give you some insight into my incredible boy.
Mommy Life can be all consuming and very rewarding as we navigate life with our precious little ones. Especially during the baby and toddler years, mealtimes take on entirely new meanings, getting out of the house can become mission impossible, and feeding, dapering, nurturing, cuddling, and disciplining can leave little time for much else. Mommy Life is a short and yet very demanding stage of a woman's life. I have 3 kids from preschooler to baby; I'm living a life defined by kids activities and feeding schedules. I'm lucky if I get my makeup on or eat a well rounded meal but it's worth it to give my kids the structure and security that each of us moms strive to provide. Check out our video #MommyLife Episode 1 - Cuddles, Messes & Giggles. Mommy Life is so busy but so worth it!
If you have young children, you know all about the wide range of emotions that can arise throughout the day. I have 3 kids under the age of four, making me feel like a mommy pinball as I go about my regular routines. Normal household tasks can feel like mountains to conquer, as I'm interrupted 5 or 6 times while washing one load of dishes. Conflict between kids is bad, quiet is good, except too quiet means I need to investigate. In the middle of this, my little ones experience very real emotions within their limited worldviews and circumstances. One of the challenges of being new to mommyhood is how to deal with your kids' emotions. I still consider myself new; my oldest turns 4 this month so I really feel like I just began "parenting". I realize I have a lot of influence on my kids' knowledge of how to behave, how to interact socially, how to listen, how to forgive, how to love, and how to view themselves before God. Children look to their closest examples to learn how to respond to circumstances. Absorbing everything they experience is how kids learn to speak, interact, and identify their place in the world. As a mom, I need to be a source of guidance, correction, and comfort. Here are some tips I use to navigate life with kids and respond to their emotions.